UN-EMPLOYMENT AND JOB HUNTING AFTER SIXTY: 1. Recently, I received this advice:

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

1. Recently, I received this advice:

My girlfriend in Tennessee convinced me that there are people who would be interested in reading about the challenges I have been facing after finally 'coming of age.'
These current challenges actually began about seven years ago.
I had recently recovered about as much as the neurologists said I would, from having had neurosurgery to remove something almost the size of a tennis ball from directly behind the center of my forehead.
Christmas was approaching, and I really was not in any frame of mind to 'do it up' as we had in years past. I was actually trying to concentrate on my one-woman business of transcribing reports for a chiropractor and my part-time job at the local bookstore. A big celebration was not on my radar, and shopping was not going to happen since so much was still due on the hospital bills.
One December day around lunchtime, I was just finishing my tuna and peanut butter sandwich, noticing that toast crumbs were snowing down into my keyboard as I multi-tasked my way through a patient's insurance report, when my husband marched into my home office and sat.
"This is just not working out and I want a divorce. No lawyers, no argument, let's just do it as soon as possible," he commanded.

As best as I can recall, my sarcastic self rose up in a futile attempt at self-protection.
"Well this is certainly sudden. What in the world brings on this sudden declaration out of the blue?"
"It doesn't really matter," he claimed. "I'm just done with this."
Probing a bit, I got him to admit there was someone else. He had known her for several years, and they had become quite close. While I was in the hospital two years before, their closeness had become intimate, and he admitted that all of his trips were excuses to be with her.
What is the female version of a cuckold? I felt foolish and offended at such ignoble disrespect of not just me, but of our vows...
And yet, in full disclosure here, a large part of me rejoiced. I had not been thrilled with this marriage. I had married this guy twice. The second time was no more fulfilling than the first.

Although nothing had 'happened' between us, I had a friend who I did feel a deep fondness for, and we had carried on a literary flirtation off and on through email for some time. Both being writers and public speakers, our facility with communication covered all the realms from double and triple entendre, to collaborating on a flirtatious short story and writing poetry for each other.
And so, although I was very hurt and shocked, and my ego was outraged, I knew that I could feel more happiness without that marriage whose duration had totalled up to over thirty-three years of emotional struggle and disappointment.
I don't want to make him out to be a bad guy. He is a patriot, a veteran, and animal lover and he is quite intelligent. He also is a classic PTSD vet and that had been the source of much of my misery. I mean, how could he help it, you know? VietNam really screwed up a lot of guys.
So, I was totally naive and went along with the 'no lawyers proclamation' and the ball started rolling from there!

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Your Phone, Your Mail Boxes, and Your Front Door

The things that arrive via your phone your email in box, your mail box and your front door often reflect your fears or rather, they can manifest your fears by bringing what you do not want into your life.
Fearing something puts a negative charge on it and that, by the law of attraction, simply encourages the manifestation of that which we do not want.
There is only one way that I know of to curtail the influx of disturbing demands, and that is to bless.
Let me be clear: we are not trying to make bills just 'go away' because, if we have incurred a debt, it is our responsibility to pay it.
The goal here is to eliminate the fear, and thus decrease the negative affects of greed and avaricious companies and bill collectors. Ads often inspire fear even as they purport to offer help. They can confuse the issue and thus confuse you as well. Receiving literally dozens of letters promising help to clear up your debts is every bit as negative as the collection notices themselves. Focusing this much attention on the debt embeds it deeper into your consciousness and thus makes an ever bigger and bigger spider's web of it. Once ensnared, the idea is to imprison you for life, paying and paying more and more and this is the very definition of usury.
The misery of usury is that despite its being prohibited by the Bible, it is legal in this country, so long as the userers are corporations. This is legalized criminalization of our economic system.
This is a big deal, but is it too big to get out from under it?
No. The way to get out from beneath a collapsing structure is to go deep. Tunneling out of an avalanche means taking care of one small step at a time.
What does this have to do with your phone or mail box? Have I gone off the deep end? Not really, not wacko. But yes, I am going deep. Deep into cause and effect; deep into truth and error; deep into right and wrong; deep into what to do and what not to do.
Cleanse
Bless
Pray
Repeat

CLEANSE, BLESS, PRAY, REPEAT

What to cleanse and how to cleanse and why.
Why first:
We cleanse to remove residue. We cleanse our bodies and our clothes, house, dishes, we bathe our dogs, scoop out the kitty litter, and wash our cars, all to remove residue. If we don't, we stink, things get germy, paint deteriorates and we are looked upon in a negative light by others. We feel better clean!
Have you ever washed your mailbox? Have you ever cleansed your phone?
We receive no benefit from ignoring these things, nor are we blessed by simply boarding up our doors and windows and not picking up our mail, voice mail, etc. that only makes the burden greater.
Step one: Using a Q-tip and a single drop of window cleaner or the stuff you clean your eye glasses with, clean the surfaces of your phone.
While you do this, envision only truth and love and blessings flowing through the device... both ways- to you and from you.
I love the Archangels. My dearest friend has taught me to work with Archangels to help me with assorted matters. So here I am going to recommend to you to call upon Archangel Michael to place a globe of white light over your phone so that it is and will remain an instrument of useful blessing, to ward it from anything that does not bless. to seal it with good intentions. So Mote It Be.
You might do the same with your laptop, tablet or whatever other electronic devices you use to interface with the world.
The most effective way to do this process I have just described, is to sit down with it, with everything lined up before you. I like to safely light a candle to aid in my focus. I would call upon the Archangel first, to stand by me and remove all that is unlike good, then I would cleanse with the cleaner, and at the same time ask that the item be cleansed of any negative residues and so forth, as stated above.
Bless the phone, the laptop, or whatever. Express gratitude for its service. Ask for Angelic guidance in its use.
Pray that all who call you or that you call are blessed by the communication and in their lives in general.
Pray too, that you remember to always use these things in a manner that is honest and that will bless others as well as yourself.
Repeat with each item of communication that you use. And also repeat, or actually renew this process from time to time to refresh it in your mind and thus gain the benefit of this positive input and focus.

SAINT FRANCIS PRAYER FOR PEACE

LORD, make me an instrument of Thy peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

The Concept of Enough

Here are a few references that discuss the concept of Enough:
Enough is Enough by Jane Straus
An illuminating look at what and why we endure and think it is a virtue . How endurance differs from perseverance and how to choose the better life of living our extraordinary lives, fulfilling our dreams and enriching our spirits.
When Enough is Enough by Candy and Sean Finnigan Refers to intervention into addictive behavior .
Enough Already!: Clear the Emotional and Mental Clutter to Create the Life You Want by Peter Walsh Discusses multiple aspects of clearing out our lives so that we can live with less trouble, less distraction and more engagement in life.
When Is Enough, Enough?: What You Can Do If You Never Feel Satisfied by Mitch Meyerson and Laurie Ashner Just go to Amazon.com and read the table of contents of this book and you will see why it is a good choice in simplifying and thus improving the quality of your life here and now.

A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough by Wayne Muller
"...wise and compassionate book... recognize and receive what we already have... offers refuge, renewal and peace..." from comments by Rachel N. Remen, MD.
The Blessing of Enough by Shmuley Boteach, tells how rejecting materialism and greed allows one to embrace spirit and fill the soul, conquering unrequited hungers.
Miscellaneous Writings by Mary Baker Eddy, on page 307 addresses specifically what is enough and covers the multitude of human issues in a few lines.
There are many other books written about various aspects of Enough-ness. These few selections promise to offer you a good look at how enough can give your life all you could ever need and the peace that comes with the lightening of burdens.

MORE TIME

ANOTHER MOMENT OF YOUR TIME
Or
FURTHER NOTES ON THE CONCEPT OF TIME

And that’s really all it is and that was where I was heading before I got off on the saucepan binge on the Time Blog Entry I posted last night.
Like money, time is a human invention used to judge and measure and to break into bits (think bites, bits, pixels) our daily experience.
Unlimited spiritual reality declares the Eternal Now, wherein our Higher Selves already reside with the Angels.
When we feel as though we do not have enough time, falling back to punt (metaphorically speaking) is an appropriate response.
When faced with such a situation, I have had great success using a rubber band. “What?” you exclaim. Understandably so. “Has this woman gone ‘round the bend?” Well, yes, several times. My alchemical work has shown me clearly what we need to keep in mind: That as a concept, an invention, time is malleable. It can be stretched or shrunken to suit the need or dilemma. But to do so, requires attention and focus. The rubber band, or even a hair scrunchie stretched over your fingers and repeatedly flexed and relaxed to the rhythmic repetition of something like, ‘Stretch time, stretch time. Get a lot done in a small amount of time (or drive a lot of miles in a small amount of time).’ There is no speeding necessary. It works with correct focus. It has worked for me countless times.
On the other hand, to shrink time, the best way is to focus on something else. I like to lose myself in a good book or in writing and suddenly, the clock has turned. The object is to not pace and not fret, but to turn to another focus such as a beloved activity or to meditation. Go within. Get to know yourself better.
Somehow or other, this all coincides with Einstein’s relativity thing. But it is putting it into practical daily use for the real person. Give it a try!
Luv Ya!
Vic

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